Ring-a-ding-ding

M and I got our wedding rings this weekend. It was really interesting to be part of the ring selection process. When we got engaged, he did all the choosing (based on some pretty specific hints I'd dropped over the years) and all I had to do was stand there, say yes and marvel at what he'd created. This time I actually had to try things on and make choices. Such hard work!

We'd been trying to find a Saturday afternoon to get out to the jeweler's for a couple of months at least. Things kept coming up and getting in the way. Finally we found a Saturday that worked. We got to the jeweler's and had to wait behind a guy who was throwing down about seven grand for a diamond engagement ring. A guy who wasn't totally sure that she was going to say yes. Like damn. I have to confess that I sat there feeling a little smug. Not only was I a sure yes for M, but I also don't like diamonds. He lucked out if I don't say so myself.

Anyway, dude bought his ring and I sat there feeling really anxious for him. But I got over that pretty quickly as it came time for us to sift through all the options and bring forth our own design ideas. We like to come off like we're modern and hip, but deep down, we're awfully conservative and traditional.

My engagement ring is an adaptation on the Tiffany Lucida mount, so I knew that my wedding ring was going to have the same rounded shape to the edge of the band. I'd been toying with the idea of having it inset with a row of round cut sapphires, but looking at it with the ring it was going to be overkill and ultimately detract from the stone in the engagement ring. In the end my choice ended up being really easy. A Tiffany-style band with stones or without.

One thing that M has always maintained being important to him is that the rings match as much as they can. I asked the jeweler about it and in her experience about 95 per cent of the time wedding rings don't match which I actually found surprising. My engagement ring has a really high setting, so I can easily wear it with my wedding band, which has always been my intention. That meant that there was no way that my ring was going to be the same width as M's.

So a lot of the choice came down to M. Would he choose something ornate, what kind of metal would he choose? Well, like me he chose the classic Tiffany band. Even though my ring is half the width of M's, it's exactly the same ring. The conservative, traditional rings. Yay for matching.

HRH